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Monday, July 16, 2007

waiting for life to happen 

I think I wrote about this before. Of course. Things haven’t changed.

I feel apathetic. It feels like not enough is happening in my life. I am waiting. Still waiting. Then I turn around, realize that I am 24, and life is going by me.

Does that make any sense?

Ah yes, the intro to Adaptation. I love that movie.


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Monday, July 09, 2007

The Unfairness 

Saw the Transformers movie yesterday. It really wasn’t a kids movie as I had hoped, since my 10 year old brother was sitting beside me.

I think (and I hope) the movie is his first exposure to the word “masturbation” and how awkward and funny of a topic it can be. I also hope that he will look the word up in a dictionary and not Google it.

What I didn’t appreciate, is an unfairness of the sexes the movie brought up. Parents find girl in guy’s room, mom all flowering and smiles and everything is okay. If the parents had a daughter and found a boy in her room…I swear all hell will break loose.

Parents of sons are happy if their son gets a girl. Parents of daughters worry if their daughter dates a boy. I know this is a very broad generalization, but I think I’ve got the right statistic.

In this way then, aren’t boys “encouraged” to attach themselves with a significant other or just be “the ladies’ man” and girls “prohibited” from the equivalent?

Does the cause go back to our biological roles? Is it because girls can be taken advantage of sexually so much more easily? Female is the naturally physically weaker sex. Girls can get pregnant, what do boys have to loose? Oh right, they might get their heart broken. Do parents see the potential emotional implications as worrisome as the potential physical/circumstantial implications with girls? The girl who ends up with an untimely pregnancy always carries more blame and burden than the male involved (unless he is famous). This is logical, given that the physical evidence of the pregnancy is visible and incredibly difficult to hide, or deny. A guy can carry on with all functions of his life as if nothing had happened if he so wish. Even if the pregnancy is to be terminated via an abortion, the unfortunate unfairness still remains. The girl is forced to come to terms with the fact that she is pregnant with all the questions, counseling, testing, anticipation for the designated day and the operation, then the recovery. We are starting to hear stories of women speaking out of how the abortion affects their life so deeply years after the event. Do we EVER hear a guy speak of such grief? No, not now, not ever; such grief is non-existent for them.

So is this the answer? Girls have a lot more to loose than boys? Is the consequence of untimely pregnancy and associated grief the basis for all the parental anxiety towards their daughters?


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